The Blame Game Rant

My rant:

I thought about putting this on our guild site, where I leave most of my posts; however I felt too many people would take this the wrong way or quite honestly wonder what I was smoking and not think it had any bearing to their game play.

My circumstance involved a PUG run, however the 2 rogues in the run were actually from my guild. The rest of the group was an 80 tank, a 78 healer (myself) and a 78 hunter. We were going into Hall of Lightning because of the fact that many people had a quest or two there, however The Tank and I were the only ones who had ever run the instance before. Overall the group was great; The Tank kept an eye on my mana and didn’t pull if he saw I was drinking, the hunter read what we put in chat and actually understood his role in the boss fights.

But then were the rogues. On Ionar, they died a lot. They wouldn’t stop dps long enough to back away when the tank became the Static Overload. (which even though randomly happened a lot) They were both being dealt, along with the tank @ 8000 hp damage in 6 seconds. Even with Wild Growth going I could usually only keep one of the rogues up if they would not back away during this stage. After about 3 deaths the tank decided to go over the fight again (I had done it the first time). He never said anything about fault, he just said well let’s re-think our strategy because something isn’t working…..and then the whining began. “Well if we could get a heal we would have killed him” “Well we can’t kill stuff if we are dead if you could pull aggro” and it continued from there.

Never once did anyone else in the group say anything disparaging about the rogues (who were friends of each others) all we did is say you know what this isn’t working and if we want to continue we need to discuss changes; however they went ahead and started finger pointing.

The tank and I whispered amongst ourselves, basically agreed to pull Ionar one more time, I didn’t waste a single heal on the rogues and they fell quickly because of it. (I did watch them, if they had followed instructions this time I would have healed them) Without having to try to heal them, the hunter, the tank and I downed Ionar. It was a long fight but we got it done. We tried Loken once, but since movement was again an essential part of this fight we quickly died. As we all ran back to the instance there were respawns and the tank, hunter and I all said we were not willing to re-clear and quickly broke up.

The rest of the weekend I had to stay out of guild chat because one of the two rogues continued his diatribe on looking for a "real healer" every time he wanted to do a run. Even though I had not discussed what had happened to the anyone in the guild except my boyfriend, none of the other healers would run with him this weekend because of his behavior in chat. As one priest whispered me about it asking me what happened (which I declined not because I didn't want to vent but more because I didn't want to cause any guild drama) he was afraid what the rogue would say if he ran with him.

The only person I told any of the story too was our 2 raid leaders and basically I just said that if they wanted me to raid then they couldn't assign a certain rogue to my group. (It shouldn't be a hardship we have 3 10 man groups starting)

I know my boyfriend thinks I am being a bit too sensitive, but it is not fun for me to work/play with people who refuse to ever take responsibility for anything and feel the need to blame someone. I myself have cause a wipe or 2 ..or more…in my 3 years of playing and I have always sucked it up and apologized. I was taught as a child that the first person you point the finger at is yourself, and if after doing that you can 100% say that it was not your fault then you need to work on a solution. The hand that the finger is on needs to be put to work and not continue in some blame fest where nothing will ever get done and nothing occurs but the creation of bad feelings.

I guess what my rant is about is one that is common to WOW. I really wish that people would realize there are actual 3-D Real Life people on the other end of the toons, as more than just an intellectual exercise. Realize that blame doesn’t get things done and if you are feeling like someone isn’t doing their job and it bothers you then leave, move on, find a different group if your only other option you see is to start the blame game.